10 Ways To Become Wiser In Life

Hi ladies! 

Today I prepared for you interesting and also extremely important topic. I noticed that we are not being toughed how to be wiser in life. What I mean by wiser is simply life lessons, everything we can't read about in a textbook. The main factors when it comes to learning this "skill" are experiences with other words: everything we saw, heard or had contact with. What's more interesting we learn it everyday but only our own conclusions can lead somewhere. In order to do this, we have to be aware that exclusively our own observation and thinking have the power to do so. 

There are some things I wish I new earlier in my life and I'm sure these can help you taking much more joy from life and gaining knowledge which other people may only see in movies.

WARNING: The smarter you get, the more you start understanding why some people talk so little.

#1 Understand that every bad situation can  teach something but is your choice whether you take this hard lesson.

I know what you may be thinking now "What can I get from a death someone I loved?" or "Why such a cruel lesson happened to me?". When something terrible happens to us we don't want to take any lesson from this. We're full of anger and sadness. I understand it  but do you know anybody who has't came trough something like that at least once?  I'm not saying this to tell you that your pain doesn't matter but to open your eyes that maybe it happens not without reason.

Life shows us how little we know and how we can cope with sadness, loneliness, traumas, anger, loosing yourself and many more. It opens our eyes very often on things we tend to take for granted and how precious time is. Let me tell you, sometimes some people walk out of your life or pass away in order for you to let yourself in. It's a hard lesson to get but if you do it, you'll find new meaning in life.

#2 Life gives us the most honest truth.

Everyone has been in a place in life where he/ she didn't live right with himself/ herself. Maybe it was a "friendship" or a sort of romantic relationship where we felt like we were constantly lying to ourselves by ignoring the instinct or red flags we simply didn't wanna see. Talking to yourself as if everything was fine may help only for a while then we're still stuck in the place we don't wanna be in.

The truth always comes out. Lying to yourself about situation you've found yourself in is pointless so live with harmony with yourself. Listen to your instinct and other's vibes.

What I also wanna mention in my number 2 is to work hard and don't skip the harder part of process. I promise you that one day everything what you do will bring you what you deserve. Don't be angry with people who constantly cheat or rely on skiving and never get caught. They will also get what they deserve.

#3 Listen and talk to different people. Never neglect them or judge.

We can learn something from every single individual we met on our life path. Unfortunately, we do not see the opportunity to gain knowledge just because we don't perceive somebody as an authority which is completely wrong. This way of thinking will lead you to nowhere. Everybody can show you something. For instance, simple farmer may show you how to bring joy from minimalism, rich man who owns a company may tell you how to built strong habits and train self-discipline, mother of 4 children can show you the truth behind raising kids and what true dedication means. Perhaps we all met these kinds of people in our lives but the question we need to ask ourselves is: why didn't I know all those things? The answer is really simple: You just did not pay attention. What is essential here is that we have to understand one rule: just because you hear someone doesn't mean you listen to them. With that being said also try to understand their perception, ask questions and come to some conclusions.After some time the way you look at the world can change drastically.

Do not regret meeting somebody in your life path. Some people appears only to show us who we don't wanna deal with and how react to these individuals. 

#4 Open your mind and heart but at the same time learn to think for yourself.

It's important to listen to other people and respect their thoughts but at the same time be aware that not everything they say must be right for you. There are tones of people who try to  change your way of thinking for their own benefits. The aim here is not to make the world a better place but make it better just for them. Unapologetic tone, confident gestures and piercing eyes may seem trustworthy but in reality these are all intentional actions. In other words it's a manipulation. If we don't want to be manipulated, we need to think for ourselves. Ask yourself: Is this what I truly believe in? Do I really wanna behave this way?  

There are very few people who do not get manipulated. Just because one milion people approve certain idea does not mean you cannot disapprove. Take a moment and think about individuals who invented or created great things which are remembered for hundreds of years. They all created their own paths. They all stood out from the crowd with their ideas. They all thought for themselves. 

#5 First watch then speak.

This point may seems easy but it's easier said than done. The most important skill here is to observe and evaluate the situation you're in. Don't speak up when you're with a person who doesn't listen to you or try to have an argument. Ignoring is what creatures who are higher in a hierarchy do. Respect yourself enough to not lose energy and you precious words.

When you have to respond or stand up for yourself try to keep it short and decisive. Sometimes the most honest truth about somebody kept in the simplest words is the most hurtful one.

There are also situation where you're supposed to speak. When you talk to person who is truly interested in you way of thinking and you can exchange ideas, memories or thoughts. That's when you really respect yourself. 

Everybody is first to call other person shy or timid because she or he does not speak much  but very few people try to understand why. Maybe many situations or interactions doesn't deserve a lot of words.

#6 Appreciate little moments.

I believe that happiness is created by little moments. Something like favorite coffee in the morning, watching TV series with closest people or listen to the song which reminds you the greatest memories of all time. If you can't be grateful for these little things, you will never be grateful for big things. I promise you that even the richest person in the world sitting on the most expensive seat in the fastest car desire the most to see his little child smile again when it's already an adult. 

Remember that one day even those little annoying things like clothes left on the floor can become another day your dream. We tend to not appreciate people or things we surround ourselves with until they're gone. 

Please, do not miss your happiness. 

#7 Be kind.

I think this point is the most underestimated one. Why? I know that many people associate kindness with inability to setting boundaries or being not assertive but it has nothing to do with real meaning of kindness. We can define such person as a good listener, classy, smart, respectful, helpful, sympathetic but also assertive, honest,inspiring, reliable and trustworthy.In other words we can call it a true strength. 

Let me tell you that however it may seems like being rude, noisy or aggressive is not the way you'll gain respect.In reality it's actually a weakness because insulting other people is easier than trying to be respectful and understanding. People might avoid confrontation with you just because they don't want to fight individuals who are not worth losing their energy. Moreover, it's more than embarrassing to behave like that. 

Of course, there will be always people who are disrespectful or full of attitude but it's a matter of choice whether you deal with them. Sometimes we just need to let somebody exist.

#8 Find the courage to do things which others are too afraid to do.

If you don't want to be average, you must take not average actions. Believe me it doesn't matter if you are not the best in what you wanna do just remember to do your best in whatever you decide to do. That quiet voice in your head which is constantly telling you that there is a massive amount of people who are much more talented than you and whatever you'll show somebody else can do it better. I can't tell you that it's not true because in most cases it is. But don't let it stop you.

It's often not all about your skill but about you as a person, about how you express yourself, the way you talk or move and how you present yourself. Just take a moment and look at the most famous people in the world. What you should notice is that you would find many not famous people who are better at certain skill that they represent. The  point here is that they all represent unique styles and personalities because they've chosen to find the courage to show something different from the rest. And that's should be your motivation. Do not be worry about what average people will think about you because when you make it , the same people will tell others how they met you.

#9 Work and make progress in silence.

This one , in my point of view, is something which we learn a little bit to late in our lives. Does this little voice of excitement which is constantly persuading you to tell your friends about all your new targets sound familiar to you?

 I was the person who would walk around and tell everybody what I was currently doing and all my targets connected with that. I was sure that I would avoid failure. Unfortunately, very often I ended up burnout or I just realized this thing wasn't for me. After all I felt embarrassed by the fact that everybody knew I didn't make it. It made me look simply dumb but I could've avoid it by waiting till I made it. 

Remember that there is so many people who may not seem having low self-esteem but in may cases it happens. These people are cool with you as long as you're not above them but when you do something what they're not capable of doing they may start discouraging you and dragging you down. Keep it in secret as long as you can. When you make it, everyone will see a massive change. 

#10 Realize that nothing what matters in life comes with little effort.

Many times we daydream about becoming a rich or famous person. Many times while watching movies we tend to think that some people are just privileged and their life is perfect. As if they were special individuals who don't know what is like to live the average life. Few times or almost never we think how much dedication, hard work and self-discipline it costs somebody to achieve it. Just think would you be ready to spend your childhood not on playing with other kids but on private singing lessons? Would you be able to dedicate every party or  hanging out with your friends for attending extra classes and after that coming home and practise again? Can you imagine yourself spending most of the hours in a day on training? If the answer is no, you should consider calling somebody privileged next time. 

Nothing what matters even a little bit in life is easy to get. Think about it. When you want a healthy relationship, it takes you a lot of work and energy but in the end all that efforts are worth it. The same with achieving goals, maintaining health or be in shape. 

You can't buy something which is not a real thing.